Unconsumated marriage

One of the major common denominators in the case of unconsummated marriage is the wide canyon between what is generally taught about to us as very young people about sex, and what we really need to know as adults. This, I refer to as the difference between sex education and sexual functioning. Obviously, it is unnecessary and inappropriate to talk about sexual functioning such as how to approach sex, sexual excitement, arousal, techniques and problems during the first sex education talk in the early years of a young person, but sadly there does not seem to be this type of follow up about sexual functioning, which would be useful, instead it is mainly about sexuality and safe sex, which is extremely useful but not all there is to sex. It appears to be thought unnecessary to teach sexual functioning perhaps this because there is an assumption people will naturally get to understand about this, based on the idea that young people will start experimenting and find out for their selves? But, as I mentioned previously many people do not experiment with sex, some out of choice, others for religious reason, these groups of people will move from early years into married life armed only with the education they received about sex, and the learning experience from the people around them.
The learning experiences I refer to here is the combination of the sex education taught, if any together with the information transmitted and understood about sex from the adults who are around young people, most of this is not done deliberately, but rather instinctively from the individual’s own upbringing and attitudes to sex. This can create either a good or bad impression which often lasts a life time. Best case scenario is that sex is not spoken of as something to fear or is dirty, but is spoken about in non-threatening and relaxed communication with good emotions. Worse case scenarios are